We can only physically or sensitively recognise what we already know. What we already have.
As if two identical molecules were to meet and immediately recognise and attract one another just because they can SEE each other. If they were not identical, they would not be able to recognise each other. The other would be invisible. Just like a specific shade of colour is invisible for a colour blind person. Or a sound for a deaf person.
We see what we can see in others. We see what we are interested in. We see what rings a bell. We see what reassures. We are all the same.
Think about this next time you find someone annoying, too much, boring, funny, prickly, uptight.
I know, the exercise is not easy. And mostly unpleasant.
SO Imagine. You wake up one morning in a horrible mood. A family issue that instantly creates a knot in your stomach, reminding you instinctively of a whole series of similar unpleasant moments. You drag yourself out of your lair – you have no choice, one has to eat – and try to manage your social life by putting on your face and what you believe is your ultimate reasonable smile.
At that very moment, you have to be strong : instead of shoving, as you usually love to, everything to the other side – try the ultimate move : look at yourself.
Most people work on a reactive mode. The more sensitive the person, the more reactive she will grow.
It takes a huge dose of zen to be able to recognize an emotion – yours or somebody else’s – and just let it pass before you, without making it yours.
You still wonder why so many people anesthetize themselves with alcohol or psychotropic drugs?
Take a break. Breathe. The other is just a mirror that indicates you in which state you are.